When to Give Up

I thought I’d title this post with a somewhat shocking title. Don't take this the wrong way, I am not in some crazy mood and I am not ready to "give up" on anything important. I value and encourage consistency, persistence, and trying your hardest until there is absolutely no other option. In a previous post last September, I have written a post on why you should not give up. I described what you should do when it does get difficult and how to avoid giving up. This is the case when you know that you should be doing what you are doing and that it is an non-negotiable goal of yours. There is another side of the coin. There comes a time when you either know or will know that what you are doing isn't working. I have been there with jobs, classes, and personal tasks. It is officially time to give up. I do not encourage quitting, but here are some times when you should consider throwing in the towel.

  1. You absolutely can't stand what you are doing. If what you are doing makes you completely miserable, you may consider that this may not be the thing for you. I understand that most situations do not have an immediate exit, so it is even better to avoid getting too deep into a terrible situation before it gets too bad.

  2. You are extremely stressed out and your health is affected. If you are stressed out to the point that your health is affected, you are in the wrong situation and should seek a way out. Again, not all situations have an immediate exit, so use caution in working out the appropriate timing.

  3. You don't have passion or interest. I get that we can't always be doing something we love doing. However, that does not mean that we have to pursue a career path that will leave us empty for our entire time we are in it. Life is relatively short and time flies by, don't spend it doing something you don't really want to do. There is a balance in life that we should find something to do that is still profitable, but yet usually enjoy doing and can be done well.

  4. You made a mistake. We all make mistakes, we may have picked a class that is too hard in school or is not in an interest for you, or ended up in a job they were a poor fit with. 

  5. You are in situation that ended and you don't have any control over it. There are many things in life that are out of our control and they are over. For example, if you got laid off, then you are in a situation that is beyond your control. It is time to just keep going with the things in your life that are in action.

As you can see, there are several reasons to quit something that is no longer profitable or no longer existent in your life. As I said in an earlier post last year, it is time to stop blowing up a popped balloon. I understand that situations like this can be difficult, so if this is the case for you, I wish all the best on whatever comes next.